“Hi Janet, Here is our birth story 🙂
I started to write it when he was 3 weeks old and then Christmas got in the way….so just finished it now. It still makes me warm and fuzzy thinking about it! We are all doing really well. Hugh is just a delight and I am treasuring every precious moment with him.
The Birth of Hugh Edward ❤
After visiting you (Janet) for a reflexology treatment the evening before, (and hearing some calming and wise words too), John and I went to a consultant appointment as I was 41w+4d.
We were both fully prepared with knowledge, questions (I’d swatted up on both AIMS booklets Vaginal Birth After Caesarean (VBAC) and Induction) and confidence to make our own informed decisions. Following this appointment, we decided to accept a sweep. John then returned to work and I went for a walk; it was a beautiful cold day and I enjoyed the fresh air and exercise.
At about 11pm I began to feel twinges. Unsure if things had started, I went to bed to try and get some rest. At about midnight, I still couldn’t sleep and felt more regular, gentle surges. As our childcare help lived in the North East (and they had snow!), I phoned my parents to drive across (just in case) and they happily ‘holed up’ in our lounge without a sound. As soon as they were here, my surges became more frequent.
Knowing that Clara was safe, probably helped this. We got up to eat (!) and become more mobile at 5am. We played “River Dawn” (KG Hypnobirthing music) constantly; the Colour and Calmness meditation (KG relaxations) helped through this early stage too. Once we had an empty house (at about 8.30am), John ran me a bath and I focused on my breathing.
John phoned RLI at about 11am (apparently) and explained I was in labour, hypnobirthing, aiming for VBAC water birth. We headed down to Lancaster (me plugged in to “Colour and Calmness”) and arrived quietly and calmly.
We went straight into the pool room and the lovely midwife respected every wish of ours. She even found my affirmations sheet that I had made and stuck it up so I could focus straight in on that. John advocated that I would be happy to have an initial vaginal examination (VE) once I was settled. Following this, the mw (and John) were happy for me to get into the pool; the water was soothing and I kept my focus on my “up-breathing” (KG Hypnobirthing breathing)
Being continually monitored wasn’t done intrusively and gave me the reassurance that all was well. Baby’s heartbeat did start to drop later so after a discussion with the doctor (via John) we chose to check on baby. After this quick procedure, all was well so I got straight back in the pool – bliss!
Our beautiful boy was born in the water at shortly after 8pm. After some skin-to-skin with me in the pool, John then enjoyed some skin-to-skin time too when I then needed to get out of the water.
It was an incredibly emotional and positive birth for both of us; I would happily do it again tomorrow and John felt much more ‘helpful’ and confident in questioning the medics! Our contented little boy is thriving and surrounded by love, particularly from his big sister Clara.
Thank you so, so much Janet for empowering us to enjoy the birth we wished for. You are amazing!
Love Naomi xxx”
”We are delighted to share our home birth story below, I’m going to share a little background about the journey to get there because hopefully it will be of help to others.
Without too much detail, we already have a beautiful daughter who is almost 4. Her birth was a hospital birth that leaves me unsettled still, so my initial thoughts towards having another child were that if we were going to do it I would have a planned section. I couldn’t allow myself to go through the trauma I had been through before so I would take away all of the “unknowns”. Deep inside I knew this wasn’t what I wanted but all I could focus on was “but what if” eventually I went with my heart and decided to put my faith in my body and have the birth I wanted.
My husband and I decided to do the hypnobirthing course with Janet Naylor who we had met in various capacities with our first child… the course was fantastic, we felt like a really strong team and we felt in control of our experience. It was then that we took it another step based on a class visualisation that we would have baby at home by the fire and so we went away and practiced daily for what would be our perfect birth. I also had a few reflexology treatments with Janet which were the most relaxing treatments, I hope I didn’t snore too loudly Janet !
It was a tough time for our family leading up to the birth due to the passing of a very special relative. The funeral was to be held on the 18th January in the Cotswolds and we were to soon have to accept that we would be unable to attend. Our emotions, mine especially were all over the place but in the times of clarity I used the tools I had been given. Tools given to me by the wonderful Janet during our Hypnobirth course. I focused my energy on the outcome I most desired, my home birth and with the amazing support of my husband we would achieve this.
On Monday 15th I started having some surges, quite close together. My husband was keen to get the pool up just so it was ready, only to discover the liner I had bought was too small!! No need to panic, I thought I have friends in the home birthing world, someone will be able to sort this. A quick message to my wonderful friend Alice and a new pool complete with liner arrived. When I found out about the liner I was ok, I remembered Janet’s voice saying if plans divert use the tools, keep calm, everything will be fine and sure enough it was… then came the bomb shell.
My husband reluctantly tells me at around 3pm that after 8pm there is no one on call to come the the house for our home birth, so we will have to go to hospital. Calm did not save me this time.
Every part of my body was conflicted, all that hard work, practice and dedication….. to have the choice taken away from me. I was devastated, luckily or perhaps not so much luck… my body stopped, no surges would run through my body until I was ready again to do this right. (No surprise that the crucial oxytocin hormone stopped!)
On Wednesday morning around 11:30 I felt a little pop. The same experience I had had with my daughter, no big gush but maybe my fore-waters? No surges, so at 7pm we decide to take a trip to the supermarket, back at home at around 9pm I pop to the toilet and this time my waters have definitely gone. We go downstairs back to our birthing environment with the candles on, log burner lit, the lavender diffuser, lower the lights and eat some food. At some point through the quiet, my husband kisses me and says the midwives are on their way, one of them is Janet.
I had visualised Janet being on call at night the whole way through this process and sure enough all the energy I had focused in the right places was having an effect. Anyone who knows Janet will know the calm I felt, hearing her arrive in my living room 😘. I can’t really tell you any time frames or much really after that other than the surges came and the up breathing I had practiced gently saw me through, I sat, breathed, relaxed and listened to the hypnobirthing tracks, mainly the Affirmations and “River Dawn” (Hypnobirthing music).
Then I felt my breathing change and my body was pushing down so after a few confused breaths I went with it. I could no longer sit down but stood and swayed until I decided I would like to get in the pool. The pool was warm and the weightless feeling was really calming. I don’t again know any time frames but what I can tell you is gently and without fear or pain my baby’s head arrived, followed by a little wiggle of his shoulders and he was born at 6:15am on the 18th January weighing 7llb 11 1/2oz in the pool.
I looked at my husband and said “We did it” – a moment I had visualised for many years that I almost didn’t allow myself to experience! P.s no pain relief, no internal examinations and no stitches. I don’t remember having my temperature, blood pressure, baby’s heart rate taken/ monitored although this did happen. We delayed cord cutting and had a physiological third stage.
Words cannot express how grateful we are to Janet who supported us above and beyond throughout the whole pregnancy, the fact that we were privileged enough to have her at our baby’s birth still hasn’t quite sunk in. She really is a special person.
What I have learnt is to trust your body is the most powerful gift you can give to yourself. Focus your energy on the outcome you want to achieve not on the what if’s. Relaxation is a very powerful tool. The skills Janet gave to our family were clearly invaluable in bringing our son into this world but they are skills we will use for life.
Thank you again Janet, we love you 💕
“Thanks for a fantastic course. I am feeling so much more empowered and confident about birth and the time between now and then it has been a very inspiring course. Now need to get practising 🙂“
“Hi Janet, Many apologies for the delay in writing to you. Been so hectic in recent weeks. We are all well here. Little Oliver is alert, happy, healthy and chilled. My mum keeps saying how peaceful he is and how it must be related to the hypnobirthing. Here is a testimony finally! I would like to start by saying a huge thank you to you Janet for supporting me and giving me the skills and the power to have an amazing birth.
I would like to share my birth story to highlight how Hypnobirthing had such a positive impact on my birth.
At around 2am my waters broke, as it was my first child I felt both excited and nervous, I rang the midwife who gave me directions of what to do next. After a couple more hours I went to the midwifery led unit, to see the midwife to confirm that I had started labour, I had! I went home and after another couple of hours I decided to call the midwives to come round to the house because I was having a home birth. Whilst we were waiting, my boyfriend was putting up the birthing pool in the next room.
My surges were quite intense but manageable. I got in the pool and it was quite amazing how different the surges felt. They felt less intense and lighter.
Just before the midwife swap at 10am and was asked if they could do a VE (Vaginal Examination) so that the next midwives had an idea of where I was up to. I agreed and asked if they could let my boyfriend know as I didn’t want to know.
The new midwives arrived. They didn’t keep asking me regarding taking my blood pressure, pulse or baby’s heartbeat because they knew my birth plan had said I preferred not to be interrupted during labour unless medically necessary.
During my surges I was applying the breathing techniques learned in the Hypnobirthing course and my boyfriend was great and reminding me to do this. I also reminded myself to relax my body when I had moments of tension. I starting pushing at around 12 midday and I could feel the difference in my body.
What came into mind at this point was Janet saying ‘trust your body’ which is hard to believe until you are in the moment. My body just took over, when my body told me to push, I pushed and in between times I kept hydrated.
At 3pm the baby’s head was born , after nearly 3 hours of pushing! The midwives suggested that I come out of the pool and to sit on the chair, so a quick position change did the trick ! Baby was out in one more push!
Welcome to the world baby Oliver !! Baby Oliver, was given to me for skin to skin time, he was so peaceful and looked very chilled.
When I reflect on the labour and birth, I remember being in a zone throughout. I could hear things going on around me and processing it but yet not responding or thinking too much, it was like I was looking in on my birth in a way. I was very vocal during labour but my heartbeat and pulse remained the same throughout the entire labour, as did baby’s heartbeat. I believe this is the result of Hypnobirthing.
I learned to trust my body, get into the zone and to apply the skills and knowledge from Hypnobirthing to get a drug free natural birth. I cannot thank Janet enough for not only the skills of Hypnobirthing but the knowledge surrounding labour and birth which was invaluable”
“After a few sessions of hypnobirthing with Janet, (for our first baby) we were unable to complete the course as our daughter decided to arrive 6 wks early by emergency c-section.
At the time, everything happened so fast but I was very aware of what we had been learning with Janet, most importantly, my breathing techniques to keep me calm.
In my next pregnancy, I still had my Hypnobirthing book and CDs, so most days I would listen and read to familiarise myself with the techniques again.
I also started reflexology with Janet, in pregnancy, which I found so relaxing and had it in my mind that it could possibly shorten labour!
When the time came, I breathed my way through my contractions very calmly, and much to my midwife’s surprise, I was quite quickly at 7cm.
Following the birth, the midwives said our little boy’s birth was one of the loveliest they had seen for a while.
Thank you Janet xx”
“Hi Janet, I thought you would appreciate the update… we spend two days at Langdale, which was like being in my “magic carpet” destination AMAZING and a little emotional, we practiced scripts and wrote our birth plan 👍
There’s still all sorts off twinges and progress going on since Boxing Day which is exciting and Ben and I have never been so close or relaxed (Thank you again).
Last night we had a birth pool practice run and this morning my “Breathe” bracelet and “affirmation cards” arrived.
It’s safe to say we feel calm, confident and ready. Thank you so much, already our experience has begun and we couldn’t be more grateful for having you along for the ride 💕💕”
Birth report, …”light surges around 5pm which had progressed nicely by 6ish…by 10.29pm I had delivered a healthy 7lb 2oz baby. By the time the midwives arrived – I was very ready to deliver…had been for a while. It was intense but I did it. Being at home was amazing. (Big brother) slept through it.
Thanks for sending all of your oxytocin vibes. I will definitely spread the Hypnobirthing message. Doing your course was an absolute game changer for me and gave me the confidence to feel I could do it !!
The last hour I spent in the bathroom upstairs with the lights turned out and the wind and rain against the skylight. Definitely me just wanting to shut the world out and get all primitive. I had a lot of stuff from the course in my head around that and being at home was definitely best place for me.
So empowering and helped in ways I could not imagine…Thank you xxx”
Sharing with permission, Home Hypnobirth, first baby “Dear Janet, we are delighted to tell you that our gorgeous baby Molly joined us on the 5th Nov at 23:48, 6 days early weighing 8lb 1.5oz, another hypnobaby to add to your collection!
On Sunday the 5th I woke and thought my waters may have broken. With Guy still at sea I knew I had to remain calm so I relaxed at home making Christmas cards. I started to get a sore back and then cramping at the front soon followed, some friends came over for a cuppa so I stayed calm and enjoyed catching up on the gossip.
I then had a call from Guy explaining he had brought his ship into port and he was getting a lift home. I decided to call Helme Chase (Midwifery led unit) as I still wasn’t convinced it was my waters that had gone, as we were 6 days early.
Guy arrived home around 1700 and we jumped in the car to visit Helme Chase, by this time I was experiencing more powerful surges.
We got stuck in traffic so it took us a while to make the journey and to help me remain calm we listened to the “Magic Carpet” and “Positive Statements”. The midwife had reviewed our birth plan and knew we were hypnobirthing so was straight away supportive and using terms and phrases we knew.
She confirmed that I had a hind water leak and that baby was back to back. At this stage, following our plan, I agreed to an initial VE with the results being fed back to Guy, I chose not to find out how far along I was (it was now about 18:30 and I wasn’t in what the midwife would describe as established labour).
Armed with my hypnobirthing toolkit and confident that Guy had additional knowledge, we went home to relax and await the arrival of our daughter. When we got home (husband) ran me a bath, lit some candles and with “Riverdawn” playing I got in to soak while Guy stroked my arm. I focused on my “Upward” breathing while Guy read out some visualisations. I was in the bath for about an hour.
I moved to the sofa but couldn’t get comfortable as the surges were getting more powerful and frequent. Knowing our midwives would be at least an hour away we gave them a call. I got back in the bath while Guy prepared our “birthing suite”, he started pumping up the pool, putting out electric candles, using the lavender room spray and put on a hypnobirthing playlist.
He also brought me a drink of water with a couple drops of Bachs Rescue Remedy. At 21:00 our midwives arrived, I was still in the dimly lit bathroom and they quietly crept in. They asked for permission to listen to baby, so right from the beginning respected our birth plan and followed our hypnobirthing preferences.
At this stage we were using our “anchor word” to help my breathing and apparently Guy now tells me, I was throwing my head back and making guttural noises between surges. The midwife suggested we make our way down to the pool as it was now filled and ready and asked if I would like a VE prior to entering the pool. Keen to know how far along we were I agreed and made my way down to a bed in the birthing room.
Following the VE the midwife discretely told Guy I was “X cm” dilated (in our birth plan we had requested that Guy was to be given information regarding numbers throughout the labour), she checked with me but as I was now curious I also found out I was 7cm dilated (it was now approx. 23:30).
The midwife then suggested due to the urges I was getting to visit the toilet prior to entering the pool and I slowly made my way to our very small downstairs loo. I was still very relaxed and even laughed and joked with the midwives that I now had to back into the loo as I was too big to turnaround once in.
As soon as I was seated on the loo the surges changed dramatically and clearly this was obvious to all as Guy stopped making the midwives a cup of tea and both him and the midwife stood in the doorway of the loo. Guy started soft touch massage on my legs and I had an overwhelming feeling that my body had taken control.
Without any conscious pushing and much to everyone’s surprise a little head appeared between my legs. Guy and the midwife then swapped places and she encouraged me to stand. As I stood up another surge took over and with that our baby was born at 23:48 (it was a very impressive catch by the midwife).
Molly was placed straight on my chest for skin to skin contact and with some help I slowly walked my way across the kitchen to the bed in the birthing room. We were left initially for time together as a family and for the cord to stop pulsing.
After around half an hour (with a little instruction) I passed the placenta and Guy cut the cord. The midwives were incredibly discreet and monitored us from the doorway without interrupting this special time. I was checked over and required no stitches so enjoyed some tea, crumpets and an early feed for our baby.
The midwives packed up and left us, as a family for the first time around 02:30.
Upon reflection the Hypnobirthing techniques allowed us to have the exact birth we wanted, with no medical intervention. The process was calm, quiet and magical. In the days following due to the nature of the birth we have found ourselves confident, relaxed and entirely content. We cannot thank you enough for providing us with the techniques, information, confidence and support to allow us to start our family together.
We are all Hypnobirthing fans for life!”
Janet’s words: In my Hypnobirthing classes I spend lots of time on “birth plans/ preferences” and look at all options around vaginal examination (VE) and the implications of thinking about “numbers/ centimetres” on the subconscious mind 😉
Thank you Janet for all you taught us and the power and confidence you gave back to us. People keep saying how good I’m looking and how “brave” I am to have a drug free home birth but I just think it should be a normal option for people. I didn’t realise the very strong and pervasive feeling of negativity towards childbirth and perceived risk of a home birth until I spoke to people about the course. After hypnobirthing I feel so great and our son is amazing! Everyone should give it a go to truly learn their options and have empowering births!
Here is the birth story:
On the Tuesday evening nothing was happening and I sent you (Janet) a message just asking a question and we had a little conversation about how I was feeling. I said we were ready to have our baby and getting a little impatient even though we were still a couple of days from due date; I am so bad at waiting! I sent my last message to you and turned my phone off and lay down in bed and literally had my first contraction right then.
Things progressed very quickly and within a very short time contractions were very strong and close together. I was trying to concentrate on the visualisations, breathing and relaxing as much as possible through the surges but it was so quick and so intense ! However, we employed the techniques and some of them were very useful for example I had no idea of the timings or how close things were. I thought everything was still very irregular and the contractions fairly short and was confused as to why my husband was ringing my mum to come and look after our daughter and ringing the midwives. A while later two midwives arrived and I was thinking; this is way too soon! But he said he had been timing the contractions and they were at the right level to ring in.
The midwives were fantastic and took my obs without too much interference, they just let me do my thing until I was ready for them to do the next thing. Turns out my blood pressure was quite high on initial reading but nobody told me so I had no idea. I think the surprise of having two of them arrive had pulled me out of the zone a bit and elevated my adrenaline. Looking back it is easy to see the impact of being “observed”. My husband suggested we go downstairs and get onto the pool which he had already run and set up my “birthing den” with a screen, fairy lights and my affirmations so it was quite dark and quiet; my safe space. Apparently it was quite shortly afterwards they took my bp again and it was fine but I still had no concept of the time.
It must have been an hour or so later I got the urge to lie back in the pool and almost go to sleep. My husband put the colour and calmness script (which I still have never heard all the way through) and kept it on repeat. I thought we listened to it about 3 times but he said it was at least 5 or 6! I was still having intense surges but they were somehow more manageable. Then suddenly I felt a difference in the surges and a feeling to kneel up and push. Apparently I only pushed for 7 minutes and our son was born in the pool. The midwives and my husband were telling me “Baby is here! Pick him up, he’s between your legs!”. It was such a magical moment to reach down, turn him round and pick him up myself after all the work.
During the labour I remember it being painful and feeling disappointed that I hadn’t managed to achieve a beautiful pain free hypnobirth. However, looking back and comparing birth of our two children the differences are stark and our sons birth was just astonishing compared. Just 9 hours start to finish which was amazing compared to 60 hours with my first. We were so much more prepared, empowered and confident. I was offered two examinations which I turned down; everything seemed fine and there was no need to interfere. The midwives (whose faces I didn’t even see until after he was born) were excellent and spent most of their time sitting in the next room and just letting me get on with it.
They followed our birth plan, communicated with me through my husband and accepted our decisions without question (there was no need to interfere). My husband was just the best, going from feeling so lost and out of place at our daughter’s birth to being so confident and supportive, he just knew what to do and got everything done. I trusted him wholeheartedly and couldn’t have done it without him.
“Hi Janet, it’s Leah. Just to let you know that our beautiful baby girl arrived early Saturday morning! Just wanted to let you know that, thanks to Hypnobirthing and your classes & help, her birth was an amazing experience for both me & Simon.
My contractions started at midnight Fri/Sat. Got to hospital at 12:45am, was 9cm dilated and she arrived at 2:52am (8lb 7oz).
Didn’t even have time to put any music on!!! Water birth with no pain relief/no gas & air. I’m still in amazement at how quickly it all happened (think our midwife was too!) and that it was everything we’d hoped it would be. We can’t thank you enough!
Leah, Simon & baby x x x” from Text.